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https://www.researchgate.net/publication/265010195_Cognitive_Defusion_for_Psychological_Distress_Dysphoria_and_Low_Self-Esteem_A_Randomized_Technique_Evaluation_Trial_of_Vocalizing_Strategies
https://feelinggood.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Shame-Attackng-v-1.pdf
https://thebestbrainpossible.com/the-benefits-of-self-compassion-and-how-to-get-more/
https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2015/10/01/science-explains-the-link-between-self-compassion-and-success/
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This video is going to improve your self-esteem and self-worth because it allows you to try out, right here, right now, 3 very quick techniques that will give you an immediate self-esteem boost.
These techniques saved my life, frankly I don’t know where I’d be without them because I used to feel like a loser, I used to feel completely worthless, this was due to a strong stuttering (or stammering, as you want to call it) that crippled my self-esteem.
I’ve used these techniques to make peace with my insecurities and today I feel like a completely new person.
So… you want to quickly try these techniques here with me?
Good, btw my name is Marco Zamboni, and this channel is about practical personal growth.
So, let’s check the first technique.
1. Practice Self-kindness
We’re about to do a 1 minute exercise together. This exercise is so powerful that when I shared it on my small Tik Tok profile, it received 72 thousand likes and 1.300 comments.
But to be frank, the first time I heard this concept I thought “Yeah, sure, this is just another “feel good woo woo thing”. But oh boy, was I wrong.
Because then I tried, and I was like “This is amazing”, no wonder research has shown that self-kindness can increase your sense of self-worth, improve your body image, happiness and motivation, and it can bring so many benefits to your life that it is impossible to name them all here.
But what is self-kindness?
Self-kindness, self-compassion, self-acceptance, are all synonyms for the same attitude of compassionate understanding towards yourselves.
It means being kind, and accepting toward your flaws and insecurities, and in the end liking yourself not because you have x or you achieve x, but just because you are you.
And that’s an inner revolution; I can tell you because I experienced it myself, in fact, I used to... hate myself, I mean… when you try to speak and your mouth feels paralized, and other kids make fun of you, it’s hard to like yourself.
But when I started being kinder to myself, and one step at the time, I started to experience a sense of self-worth regardless of my stuttering, I started to like myself just the way I am.
Now you don’t see me stutter because I barely do in front of the camera, and when I do I just edit it out to make the video smoother, but in many situations I still stutter a lot, especially in English, but I had to make peace with it.
In other words, self-kindness allows you to experience a self-worth regardless of what you don’t like about yourself, regardless of your flaws and insecurities.
Sounds too good to be true? I know, I used to think the same thing, but I promise you can achieve it with a daily self-kindness practice.
Let’s try one right now, it only takes 1 minute, if you don’t wanna try it now, no problem. Skip to the next technique, but I highly suggest you take one minute to see what happens.
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Good, you can use this exercise as a daily practice or when you feel you need it.
2. Make fun of your inner critic
If you have a bad opinion of yourself, if you struggle with self-judgment, this strategy is for you.
I used to be very self-critical, but then I read somewhere that, in order to enhance your self-esteem, you have to stop your inner critic, so I started pushing it away.
This is what happens to many people, once they realize they have a harsh inner voice inside their head, they try to get rid of IT. But the more you try to eliminate your negative talk, the stronger you make it, in an exhausting never ending battle.
A more effective solution I discovered, also validated by scientific research, source in description, is to use what in ACT is called a defusion technique that allows you to distance yourself from your critical inner voice and therefore weaken the power that it has over you.
My favourite defusion technique is giving a nickname to your inner judge, and using it to call it out every time it pops up in your head. If the nickname is funny, even better.
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